I just got off the phone with a very dear friend of mine and they told me I need to write this down. I value and trust their opinion so here it is.
My advice for the evening is put yourself first without being selfish.
Respect yourself. Respect the people that you deal with.
Be honest. Be sincere. Be kind.
Note: I didn’t say be nice. I’m less interested in nice. Not unless it’s spelled with a capital N, in which case I’m all ears.
It sounds simple but I think it’s a surprisingly complicated issue.
We’ve heard it over and over again that you have to sleep with yourself at night; at the end of the day, you have no one to answer to but yourself.
I agree with these statements.
So why would I ever put anyone before myself?
Because somewhere along the way, I learned that my own happiness comes second to anyone I care about. I learned to give, and give, and give because taking anything would be selfish.
And I just don’t think that’s true anymore.
So in the spirit of honesty, niceties be damned, I honestly think I can put myself first without being selfish.